I posted this almost 5 years ago. A lot has changed in my life in 5 years. I neither have the house I mentioned nor the wife, but the rest still applies. Enjoy!
—————————————————————————————————————————————–Do Realtors forget what it’s like to buy a house?
The short answer is Yes.
As Realtors we are involved with every aspect of a purchase or a sale, but we are not the ones living and dying with each offer. We don’t ride that emotional rollercoaster like our clients do. We like to think we do, but we don’t. And once our clients finally come to an agreement to purchase a house we don’t have to go through the deep probing exam known as the Loan Application. We don’t have to read the home inspection that will make you question, with every fiber of your body, your decision to buy this house. We don’t have to go to bed each night discussing the house with our spouses digging up all the old wounds about not caring about her ideas or her in-laws (this is just an example. It didn’t happen). And we also don’t have to find out that the roof was replaced after a hurricane without permits being pulled (that may have happened).
My wife and I went through the home buying process just 4 months ago and even though our lender was great and our Realtor (me) was awesome the process was just a couple of levels above the prostate exam I had last year. It’s not fun. It starts out fun, but it’s not fun.
Spouse 1….”Don’t you love it honey? All we have to do is paint, replace the flooring, the kitchen cabinets and all the bathrooms.”
Spouse 2….”That sounds great.”
Spouse 2 thinking…”What will this cost?” or “What?”
I didn’t use Husband or wife to stay politically correct.
It’s a huge challenge to stay enthusiastic about what you are doing and not to worry about the fact that over the next 30 years you are going to pay 4 times what you paid for it because of your loan interest.
As Realtors we can’t buy a house every 2 years like continuing education and we can’t be there in bed with our client/clients when they discuss all the things that come along with buying a house (some may want to, but that’s for another time). All we can do is try to remember what it was like and make sure the process is as easy as possible and do everything to keep our clients from divorcing or jumping off a bridge.
Some advice to anyone that is looking to buy or sell a house. Interview your realtor. Choose one that you are willing to spend a lot of time with. Because you may find yourself talking about them, thinking about them or with them in your bed at night.
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